Sandy's Trauma and Beginning of Grief
Every One of us go Through Grief
OK, so I was on this journey – you can imagine. I loved the journey. And then, the next thing that happened was that tragedy in my life whereby my 3 daughters and their friend were murdered. I want to tell you about my journey of grief during this time. There may be some things there that can help. There are certainly some positive aspects that come out of it, so I’ll tell you about my journey of grief … and you know what? Every one of us here are going to have to go through grief.
Learning Through Adversity
Maybe many of us have already been through grief, and there’s going to be more. We’re all going to go through some adversity at some time. The key thing out of adversity and out of trauma is learning. What is there that you can learn from this event, because you know, those learning experiences are experiences for our soul and it’s the soul that needs the experience.
I’m so Glad I Spoke to my Girls That Night
So, Jenny and Kirsty, they were twins at 19 and Lexie, she was 16 – the next day. And the date was 23rd January 1987. They were living with their mum in the northern Sydney suburb of Pymble and a friend of theirs, Lisa was there as well, so there were 4 of them in the house. I was living about 5 kilometres away in Lindfield, married to Sandra and at that time we had a little 5 year old girl, Lara and a little 3 year old boy, Ian. At about 7 o’clock that Friday night I rang and spoke to Lexie and also spoke to Jenny and Kirsty and I tell you, the mirth and joy in that household was fantastic. They were all preparing to go camping for the Australia Day long weekend. And we taught them about camping, so I was really pleased about that. They were going to be joined by a group of friends to go camping. In retrospect I am so glad I was able to speak to the girls at that time, because at 10 past 9 that night Richard Madrell arrived at the door and professed his love for Jenny who of course had not had anything to do with him for 12 months and all of them wanted to keep him away with their mother even trying unsuccessful to take out an AVO on him. But he arrived at the door and shot her. He then shot Kirsty, then Lisa and then shot Lexie. All over in ten minutes.
My First Reaction
The police hammered on my door at about 2 o’clock in the morning and told me what had happened. My first reaction was that this was impossible … I mean I had only spoken to them several hours earlier. For me it was complete disbelief and I questioned about being shot with a shotgun as I knew something about guns from the army. I questioned the fact that it must have been impossible because with a shotgun you have to load it, fire and then re-load it, re-load it again …. Surely one or two of them are going to be able to get away. Surely not all 4 of them, not all 3 of my girls.
I Still Couldn’t Believe it.
On the way to their home in the police car I was still arguing with the police and I was asking if they had seen their bodies. “Oh, so you haven’t seen their bodies … you haven’t actually been there …. You’ve only been told about this over the radio … so you don’t really know this for sure.” Always thinking and hoping that it’s not true.
My Denial Phase
And then a little bit of doubt would come in and it would be like this: “God, how could you let this happen. No, no no, you haven’t let it happen. But …. If you have … what have the girls done? What have they done to deserve this for goodness sake? There is no God.” And so that’s where my denial phase started.
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I had the pleasure of directing, editing
and choreographing this piece. I just wanted to get a little creative
and have some fun. A few of us got together for 5 hours one day and
shot it the next while doing just one continuous shot of the dance. I
just wanted to share some of my passion with anyone out there who uses
dance as their way of communicating. If you get a chance check out my
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Last summer, Sierra Coulthard’s life changed forever.
She spent a week identifying her strengths and discovering who she was. She learned what it takes to be a leader and how leaders can change lives. And the Wisconsin high school student realized just how real and rampant poverty is in the world today.
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Breath of God Song Video
Have you ever wanted to get a picture in your mind what God’s Creation might sound like in music?
Here is a video that can create talking points for the unbeliever in Jesus Christ.
Some are afraid to speak the gospel to the unsaved so this video is for you!
You can simple ask an unbeliever to view the video and then you can try to answers their questions.
Summary of Video:
Creation of God as described in Genesis:
Day 1 - The earth is void (empty). God speaks Light into existence! This is not light of the Sun Moon and Stars,
Day 2 - Creation of Expanse or the Sky,
Day 3 - Creation of Dry land, and Vegetation,
Day 4 - Creation of Sun, Moon and Stars,
Day 5 - Creation of Sea creatures,
Day 6 - Creation of Animals and then as a Grand Finale, Man is created like no other being with a soul to communicate with God!
Other Events:
1. Satan then ruins Gods creation by introducing sin to mankind as a fallen angel (Serpent),
2. Man (Adam and Eve) rebel against God,
3. God has a plan of salvation for mankind in Jesus, God’s Son,
4. A Call for Repentance!
Tell me what you think and make a comment!
Appreciate, may the Lord Bless YOU! Jerry
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What I have here is another soundtrack style video. I've been contemplating for some time to feature some of my pencil drawings that I had done between 2000 - 2005 after all my musical gear got ripped off. Drawing is a lot cheaper and it gave me a chance to explore new dimensions in what would otherwise be mere sketching. I wanted to see how far I could take pencil work to a finalized portrait styled product in place of paints or pastels. I'm using Photo Story 3 for my video in place of Windows Movie Maker just to get a feel for something new. One thing that I have learned about drawing though is that I have a lot more fun making music.
Just wanted to share a piece that was
taught by faculty member Ryan Ramirez while we were in Kansas City at
Jody Phillips Dance Company! Please Enjoy all the creativity in the
room!
Just wanted to share a piece that was
taught by faculty member Ryan Ramirez while we were in Kansas City at
Jody Phillips Dance Company! Please Enjoy all the creativity in the
room!
