Sandy's Trauma and Beginning of Grief
Every One of us go Through Grief
OK, so I was on this journey – you can imagine. I loved the journey. And then, the next thing that happened was that tragedy in my life whereby my 3 daughters and their friend were murdered. I want to tell you about my journey of grief during this time. There may be some things there that can help. There are certainly some positive aspects that come out of it, so I’ll tell you about my journey of grief … and you know what? Every one of us here are going to have to go through grief.
Learning Through Adversity
Maybe many of us have already been through grief, and there’s going to be more. We’re all going to go through some adversity at some time. The key thing out of adversity and out of trauma is learning. What is there that you can learn from this event, because you know, those learning experiences are experiences for our soul and it’s the soul that needs the experience.
I’m so Glad I Spoke to my Girls That Night
So, Jenny and Kirsty, they were twins at 19 and Lexie, she was 16 – the next day. And the date was 23rd January 1987. They were living with their mum in the northern Sydney suburb of Pymble and a friend of theirs, Lisa was there as well, so there were 4 of them in the house. I was living about 5 kilometres away in Lindfield, married to Sandra and at that time we had a little 5 year old girl, Lara and a little 3 year old boy, Ian. At about 7 o’clock that Friday night I rang and spoke to Lexie and also spoke to Jenny and Kirsty and I tell you, the mirth and joy in that household was fantastic. They were all preparing to go camping for the Australia Day long weekend. And we taught them about camping, so I was really pleased about that. They were going to be joined by a group of friends to go camping. In retrospect I am so glad I was able to speak to the girls at that time, because at 10 past 9 that night Richard Madrell arrived at the door and professed his love for Jenny who of course had not had anything to do with him for 12 months and all of them wanted to keep him away with their mother even trying unsuccessful to take out an AVO on him. But he arrived at the door and shot her. He then shot Kirsty, then Lisa and then shot Lexie. All over in ten minutes.
My First Reaction
The police hammered on my door at about 2 o’clock in the morning and told me what had happened. My first reaction was that this was impossible … I mean I had only spoken to them several hours earlier. For me it was complete disbelief and I questioned about being shot with a shotgun as I knew something about guns from the army. I questioned the fact that it must have been impossible because with a shotgun you have to load it, fire and then re-load it, re-load it again …. Surely one or two of them are going to be able to get away. Surely not all 4 of them, not all 3 of my girls.
I Still Couldn’t Believe it.
On the way to their home in the police car I was still arguing with the police and I was asking if they had seen their bodies. “Oh, so you haven’t seen their bodies … you haven’t actually been there …. You’ve only been told about this over the radio … so you don’t really know this for sure.” Always thinking and hoping that it’s not true.
My Denial Phase
And then a little bit of doubt would come in and it would be like this: “God, how could you let this happen. No, no no, you haven’t let it happen. But …. If you have … what have the girls done? What have they done to deserve this for goodness sake? There is no God.” And so that’s where my denial phase started.
By Sandy MacGregor – http://www.selfimprovementdeals.com
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Software just changed the way of our work. First, computer came and changes the technology. Then, Internet changed our way to look for anything and now, hundreds of software launched each day to make our work easier on computers. Number of IT companies from all over the world just keep on developing kind of software which human beings had dream last night and what he got next day. In latest software release news, the software already available on Internet and many of users already gone through all its working. Advanced technology and much explore of human brains made this thing look very easy.
Software somehow makes our work much easier on our working machines. Internet becomes the source to get any software instant if available. Most of the software on the Internet available without any cost and some of them want you to pay before use. Among most of the categories, we mostly come up with two kinds, Commercial and Open Source software. Now, what these kind of software?
Let me to explain about these software types:-
Open Source Software:- Open Source software are those kind of software which requires no cost to use them and anyone seek any kind of improvement software need can improve it and again, launch with its improved version on Internet. Again, another user can add some extra features to that software and launch on the Internet. Programming code for open source software easily available on Internet.
Commercial Software: - Open Source software can also be commercial software. Commercial software used as commercial purposes. Some of this software is available on the Internet for free, while some named software you can also get for free but on a trial period maximum of 30 days. After 30 days of use, you have to purchase the software license. Microsoft, Adobe etc all among these commercial software production companies. Some of the best commercial software made by these multinational companies are MS Office, Adobe Photoshop, Adobe Flash player etc.
Take Linux as most appropriate example. Linux was first launched in 1991 and now, a number of improved versions available on the Internet. Linux is completely open source operating system software. If you have some knowledge about software and want to add some extra features, you can easily do it. Most of the companies currently have Linux as there operating system rather than Windows XP, Windows Vista or Windows 7 because Linux is much easier to operate and occupied less space, light in use. Now, take a look on Adobe Photoshop. You want to make an image, website, background image with some special effects etc, you need to have knowledge about Adobe Photoshop and its various features.
This commercial software somehow available without any cost on Internet but you just cannot go for all its features. You want to use all its features, go and purchase a license. But you do not need to pay for open source software.
The Emmy® Award-winning PBS home improvement series This Old House® will feature a 19th-century Victorian-era home in the city of Cambridge, Mass., and a woodland cottage circa 1935 in rural Essex, Mass., as its latest renovation projects for the upcoming 33rd national season premiering this October 4. The locations represent a city-and -country theme and provide fresh angles that are remarkably different and even contrasting. The Cambridge Project will showcase a renovation for a young family in a bustling urban setting, while the Essex Project is a quiet country cottage that will be transformed into a universally accessible living space for aging parents.
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University Hospitals Case Medical Center was recognized today as a national model for quality care as the recipient of the 2012 American Hospital Association-McKesson Quest for Quality Prize. The prestigious award named UH Case Medical Center the top hospital in the nation for its leadership and innovation in quality improvement and safety.
UH Case Medical Center was selected by a multi-disciplinary committee of health care quality and patient safety experts. The American Hospital Association (AHA)-McKesson Quest for Quality Prize is presented annually and UH Case Medical Center is the first large, urban academic medical center to earn this coveted prize.
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Wayne Dalton, a leading manufacturer of residential garage doors, recently introduced a new series of web videos featuring garage door selection tips to help consumers make the right choice to improve the look and value of their home.
The six videos, now available on Wayne Dalton’s website, assist homeowners with the process of choosing the right brand and garage door by highlighting topics including curb appeal, materials, insulation, style and design.
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Continuous improvement is the way of all industry – and the metalworking industry is no exception. Production processes are getting smarter all the time, machines faster, and tools more accurate. EMO Hannover is all about metal, and over the next few days, all manner of solutions for machining and working it will be on show right here at the Hannover Exhibition Center, Germany.
Last October, the world watched as Superstorm Sandy devastated East Coast shorelines. Almost one year later, the struggle remains for homeowners trying to rebuild. On October 3, 2013, PBS’ Emmy® Award-winning home improvement series THIS OLD HOUSE® premieres a special eight-episode series following three sets of homeowners who are pioneers: they began rebuilding–and raising–their homes on the Jersey Shore just a few short months after the storm.
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The Federal Alliance for Safe Homes (FLASH)® encourages families in the Northwest to understand their unique winter flood risk and prepare now to protect property and possessions from flood damage.
Floods are a year-round hazard, and the risks do not end when cold weather begins. Heavy seasonal rains and snowmelt often lead to flooding during the winter months. Even areas that receive less snow and rain this winter season might experience drought-like conditions that ultimately can lead to flash flooding when it does rain.
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For the millions who suffer from Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD), a study published today in the New England Journal of Medicine (NEJM) provides clinical evidence of safety and effectiveness for a new, FDA-approved medical device. Torax Medical’s LINX® Reflux Management System was studied in a controlled, prospective, multicenter trial involving 14 U.S. and European medical centers as part of the FDA pre-market approval process. The patients were evaluated before and after treatment to determine the effect of the LINX System on their GERD using pre-defined success criteria, which included reduction of esophageal acid, improvement in quality of life and elimination of reflux medications.
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Continuing its commitment to make the tools that build America, STANLEY Tools announces the launch of its Stanley Black & Decker 2014 Build Your America Contest today, where one charitable organization, non-profit organization or local government agency will win $10,000 to honor its community such as a neighborhood improvement project, renovations to a historical landmark, school, park, recreation center, etc.
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Today, WebMD Health Corp. (NASDAQ: WBMD) launched WebMD Healthy Target, an integrated health improvement program that uses biometric device data from activity trackers, wireless scales and glucose meters to deliver tailored, physician-reviewed, contextually relevant content and motivational tips to individuals looking to develop sustainable health-conscious habits. WebMD Healthy Target will provide valuable assistance to individuals looking to manage chronic conditions like Type 2 diabetes and obesity, as well as to a broader audience interested in achieving their fitness goals or more generally living a healthier lifestyle.
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Two of HGTV’s top experts, Jonathan Scott and Drew Scott, stars of the Property Brothers, are in an all-out battle to win HGTV’s newest competition series, Brother vs. Brother. The six-episode series, premiering on Sunday, July 21, at 10 p.m. ET/PT, pits Jonathan’s skills as a licensed contractor against Drew’s experience as a real estate agent as they and their teams vie to execute the smartest home renovation upgrades and score the biggest property-value increase. Each week the results of the completed home renovation is evaluated by the discerning eyes of HGTV real estate stars, including Mike Aubrey (Power Broker), Kennon Earl (Selling LA) and Hilary Farr and David Visentin (Love It or List It). While the 6’4” identical twins brothers go head-to-head to win championship bragging rights, the competing teams stop at nothing to take home the $50,000 grand prize
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